Recently, two of my mentors, Pat Rigsby and David Bayer, wrote/talked about the same topic…a topic that I think about and deal with a lot as a fitness professional…
Often when someone is considering a fitness program (or improvement they’d like to make or goal they’d like to achieve) they’ll stop themselves and think about all the other things going on in their life:
“It’s summer and I’m traveling and spending more time with my family.”
“Its’s fall and the kids are in sports.”
“I just started a new job.”
“I’m caring for a sick parent.”
Actually, these things often stop someone who’s been going strong on a fitness program for a while…
And, hey, sometimes the reasons for bad timing are completely valid, but often they’re just a way to make people feel ok with not taking action.
That might sting a little…
You may even say I’m being insensitive. It wouldn’t be the first time I was accused of that…
However, I’m not trying to be a jerk.
Actually, David says I’m doing people a disservice if I don’t point this out to them.
I just want people who immediately jump to, or fall back on, a “good excuse” to really stop and think…
Here’s the thing, the timing is never perfect.
You’re never 100% prepared.
No one is.
How can you be?
It’s called LIFE. There’s always going to be something to navigate…
Sure, some “seasons” of life are more manageable and things just flow. That’s a great time to “front-load” your efforts, as another mentor Sam Bakhtiar says…
When things are going more smoothly you can put more focus on your fitness. Maybe you’re able to get to the gym 3, 4, even 5 days per week.
Then, when you inevitably enter a more challenging “season” it’s perfectly OK to back off a little. Maybe then you’re only able to get to the gym 2 times per week, and there might even be some weeks when it’s 0. That’s totally cool.
Do what you can. Lose the “all or nothing” mentality.
On the flip side, I do want to be sensitive to certain situations…
There are valid reasons to put something off.
Heck, maybe you shouldn’t do it at all.
Saying ‘no’ isn’t a bad thing.
In fact, it’s often a great choice.
But saying ‘not right now’ and finding a way to justify it as a means of staying inactive is something entirely different.
It’s fear and/or insecurity.
So, the next time you’re considering a big ‘next step’ and you start to find reasons why now isn’t the right time, do yourself a favor and go through this simple process that Pat taught me:
- Ask yourself if the objections you’re sharing are real or just a smokescreen to hide your own fear/insecurity.
- If it’s the latter…dig into why you’re doubting yourself.
- Once you’ve uncovered those doubts…decide if you’re magnifying them and creating unnecessary anxiety. More often than not, you are.
- Finally, try to look at them objectively and decide if the potential gain really outweighs the real downsides. If so, proceed. If not, say no.
And remember, the timing is never ‘right’ if you don’t want it to be.
Decide what you really want and act on it.
And, if you’d like my help, just ask. 🙂
HAVE FAITH & TAKE ACTION!